Romantic IRL: Where SF Singles Are Actually Meeting This Month

If you’re over endless swiping and craving eye contact, candlelight, and clever banter, San Francisco’s IRL scene is buzzing. Here are the most magnetic singles events to put on your calendar—dress to feel like a secret you can’t wait to tell.

Thursday™ Pop‑Ups in SF

• Thu Aug 21, 7 pm — Thursday | Soundtrack SF: “Red Flag Party”
  A cheeky theme night where everyone’s single and the playlist is bold. Expect 200–300 people and mingling that actually moves.

• Thu Sep 11, 8 pm — Thursday | Singles Karaoke at ZOË’s Bar
  Duets as icebreakers. Low stakes, high flirt energy.

• Thu Sep 25, 7 pm — Thursday | For the Record (40+)
  A dedicated, grown energy night at For the Record. Think vinyl vibes and confident conversations.

Why Thursday works: it’s literally just a bar where everyone is single, once a week, across the city. No pressure, clear intent, real chemistry.

More SF Singles Nights To Try

• Sat Aug 30, 7 pm — Speed Dating at Hotel Zetta (Ages 25–39)
  Rotations, cocktails, and instant yes/no clarity at S&R Lounge. Cheeky Date

• Thu Sep 4, 7 pm — Speed Dating at Hotel Zetta (Ages 36–48)
  Polished crowd, defined age range. Cheeky Date

• Sat Sep 6, 5 pm — Speed Dating at RM 212 (Ages 26–38)
  Intimate vibe in the heart of Chinatown. Cheeky Date

• Thu Aug 21, 7 pm — Speed Dating at S&R Lounge (Ages 36–48)
  Another good Thursday option if you want structure before the weekend. Humanitix

• Thu Aug 21, 6 pm — Salsa Thursday! Waterfront in Sausalito
  A short hop from SF for bachata, cumbia, and bay views. Bring a friend free for the first night. Meetup

• Sat Aug 30, 7 pm — SF Speed Dating at Press Club
  A Marina-favorite venue with a buzzy crowd. Eventbrite

What To Wear

• Dark romantic energy: black slip or tailored jumpsuit, gold accents, sleek boot or heel.

• Conversation piece: a vintage ring, silk scarf, or bold lip.

• Carry: slim card holder, mini fragrance, gum, phone with lowlight camera ready.

Flirt Tactics That Feel Natural

• Open with a compliment that isn’t about looks: “Your taste in music makes me curious.”

• Use place as a prompt: “What’s your go-to in this neighborhood?”

• Close with clarity: “I’m grabbing oysters on Sunday. Should we continue this there?”

Quick FAQ

Do I need the app for Thursday events? You can browse and RSVP through their events portal and socials; the app is handy for updates and tickets. Thursday

How big are these nights? Thursday SF often draws a few hundred people, depending on venue. The San Francisco Standard